“Circus Ringmaster in Switzerland, Youth Empowerment Presenter, Beat-boxing Rythmic Juggler, Disney Cruise Line Entertainer” …this is a pretty interesting BIO I’m thinking to myself, for a speaker coming onstage to engage a conference room full of IT professionals at a Statewide Digital Government Summit last week. We were there to learn about exciting topics like business continuity, data automation and securing web apps; so it definitely caught the room offguard when the keynote speaker suddenly broke out in to a beatbox act and a one-man saxophone show trying to teach a few hundred computer nerds how to “hack the learning curve.” He was Bronkar Lee of bronkarlee.com. This Guy’s Got Talent. So much talent that in 2016 he was invited to be a contestant on an episode of America’s Got Talent, where unfortunately he did not progress to the next round. Hearing Bronkar’s story of feeling extreme rejection in front of millions of people made me wonder what would I do in that situation? What would you do?
I’m not sure, but I can tell you what Bronkar shared happened to him. He said he wanted to crawl into a hole. He didn’t want to have to face his family or his friends. Then he received a call from his brother, the one person he knew he had in his life that would be safe to talk to. I don’t want to give away the whole story, in case you have the opportunity to hear Bronkar Lee speak at an event in your area, but needless to say, that moment led him to take a lot of new steps that ultimately helped him overcome his one failure on America’s Got Talent and turn it in to a worldwide success story as a Peak Performance Pro. If it hadn’t been for having his brother as his “Safe Someone” he might still be in a hole. Who is the “Safe Someone” in your life that is only a phone call way?
The first event that saved Bronkar’s personal well-being was the phone call from his brother. Bronkar has developed an entire learning program based on his bounce back, but the second step he took that really left an impact on me was that he decided to try to master a completely new skill – playing the saxophone. It was something he had always wanted to learn, but hadn’t had a chance to. He figured he might be too old now, but still decided to give it a go. The first time he tried to play he said the sound he made was so bad no one could listen to it. To which point, his supportive wife said, “Why don’t you create a safe place for yourself and soundproof your man cave.” Which happened to be their bathroom, but he soundproofed it anyway, and now Bronkar is a great sax player, which he demonstrated for us at the conference. He used his story there to encourage everyone to find their own “safe place.”
Hmm, I think to myself, this reminds me of the old Virgina Wolf quote… “A woman must have money and a room of her own…”. I guess men need that too!
I owned my first home at the age of 5 years old, which is pretty amazing when you think about it. My Dad built me a lifesize playhouse right inside our back yard, and the star attraction was a real kitchen sink. No, we weren’t a rich family. I grew up in a modest home filled more with laughter than with cha-ching, and my First House, my First Safe Space, was not an easy gift from the wallet but a true Labor of Love. I just wish I could find a picture of it.
My Father understands how important it is to have a safe space of one’s own. As I grew up, he built me a two-story bed with a slide on it. I could spend hours up there in my own world. When I outgrew my bed he constructed an extraordinary Hope Chest, lined inside with cedar and a secret compartment! Another lucky girl, his granddaughter, now has her own slide bed, with her own secret safe place and hidden compartment. My son, has a baseball case with custom mini-bat rack. We all have a gift from my Dad that reflects our heart’s desire. As it turns out from hearing the advice of a Professional Peak Performance professional… everyone needs a space of their own like this!
Two questions to leave you with this week… Where is YOUR safe place? Who is YOUR safe someone? Life is great, and just as sure, it’s going to knock you down on occasion too. You’ve got to know “where” and “who” to go to when it does.
Wishing that your week is filled with comfort, joy and learning something new!